I think this is the same as friends(or anyone) making fun of anything you care a lot about, that others might not
Whether that's a tulpa, a book series, a collection of whatever-collector's-item, etc.
it's interesting you seem to not be able to get into shoes of someone who knows nothing about plurality and get offended by someone just not understanding your experience
No, I don’t see it that way.
I would be really uncomfortable with anyone telling me to stop doing something I enjoy just because they think it's weird. If they said, "I think this is bad for your mental health", that is slightly different. If you're in therapy and they say "did you get rid of it?", then that's not okay because that's between you and your therapist now
I see an "angry tulpa" hurting a friendship in the sense a tulpa is being used as an excuse for hurting that friend and not taking responsibility for their actions. I think that's not cool. If the "angry tulpa" was just pointing out things about the friend they didn’t like, then I struggle to see how that person couldn't come up with that on their own (or it's intrusive thoughts, which falls under mental health)(edited)
Yuka
I would, that's an extremely inappropriate thing to tell someone
1(paragraph). yes
2. Tulpas shouldn't be interacting with your friends to begin with so for you to allow them around would be problematic especially if this friend didn't interact with them to begin with.
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KiTkAT( •̀ .̫ •́ )✧
i wouldn't tell anyone that, but i wouldn't also get angry for someone saying it
For something seen as typically a personal choice by some and gospel never do by others, I think people at least in America would have the normal reaction of losing their minds
Khaos
1(paragraph). yes
2. Tulpas shouldn't be interacting with your friends to begin with so for you to allow them around would be problematic especially if this friend didn't interact with them to begin with.
For something seen as typically a personal choice by some and gospel never do by others, I think people at least in America would have the normal reaction of losing their minds
@A long kiss goodnight - jump
there is of course a spectrum
-you know what, i think you should do X because Y
-you should do this (repeats it to you every hour)
there is a way of saying it or the attitude that would repell me from the person, and maybe at some point if it was repeated i would act emotionally, but anger would probably not be my first reaction
4:45 PM
anger to someone who disagrees with me is not my default reaction
Context and phrasing matters immensely if we're talking about suggestion of abortion, everyone's going to assume context differently here and it's not a topic we allow discussing in-depth anyways so
No one should have to bend over backwards, change their harmless behaviour, etc to appease someone else's ignorant and selfish takes. If I told a friend I started painting and they said, "painting is so dumb, you should throw that away" that would be uncalled for. The friend is at fault, not the person doing the painting
There are far better examples to compare telling someone to stop tulpamancy to, like telling someone to stop trying to be an artist, or to stop collecting figurines
No one should have to bend over backwards, change their harmless behaviour, etc to appease someone else's ignorant and selfish takes. If I told a friend I started painting and they said, "painting is so dumb, you should throw that away" that would be uncalled for. The friend is at fault, not the person doing the painting
@Yuka - jump
sure but someone could say "you know what, i heard the brand of the paint you use has asbestos in it, you should be careful"
which might be more comperable to someone reacting to someone's tulpamancy
Reisen
There are far better examples to compare telling someone to stop tulpamancy to, like telling someone to stop trying to be an artist, or to stop collecting figurines
Ultimately, I think that it's okay to have an emotional reaction to someone telling you what they think is or isn't okay. I think it's very much a case-by-case basis, tulpamancy being one of the more complicated ones.
I wouldn't stop you from telling your friend Nazis are bad don't do that, but tulpamancy is pretty harmless. Unless you're worried for their mental health, but I would give that problem to their therapist. You as their friend are not the therapist
Keep in mind there are lots of uninformed ideas about mental health in society, one of which being that you can give yourself schizophrenia. A lot of random people may honestly think that practicing "tulpamancy" can give you "Multiple Personality Disorder" (generally outside the plurality community, people still do not know that the term MPD is gone and that Dissociative Identity Disorder replaced it... or what DID symptoms even consist of)(edited)
People don't always necessarily have ill-intent when criticizing tulpamancy, while some opinions are "imaginary friends are for children", more often it's "You're going to give yourself a mental disorder"
KiTkAT( •̀ .̫ •́ )✧
No one should have to bend over backwards, change their harmless behaviour, etc to appease someone else's ignorant and selfish takes. If I told a friend I started painting and they said, "painting is so dumb, you should throw that away" that would be uncalled for. The friend is at fault, not the person doing the painting
@Yuka - jump
sure but someone could say "you know what, i heard the brand of the paint you use has asbestos in it, you should be careful"
That's pretty different. If the paint turned out to have dangerous ingredients, then I'd continue painting with something else. If the paint was safe, then I'd be in the right to tell the friend they're wrong/there's nothing to be worried about because XYZ (and keep painting)
not everyone is open minded, and asking someone to understand plurality is really asking a lot
4:55 PM
but sure if you are ready to end the relationship because you have to be accepted on one side of your life, maybe it is better for you to end the relationship - you might be the toxic one, who am i to judge
That's where communication is important. It's not like I'm saying, yeah just get angry and ditch your concerned friend after one comment and leave it at that
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